myreplyis.com asked in Families 17th Mar '19:Why are parents driven to limit the independence of their children?.
Dana Khalili replied 2nd Apr '19:
Children's independence is not on the agenda of unconscious parents. Such parents siimply see their children as an extension of themselves and their achievements. As a result, these parents project a controlled façade, which the child's independence would otherwise jeopardize.
The inclination may also stem from misinterpreted religious dictates. Children are required to follow the dictates and wisdom of their parents and elders in general. It is a form of tribalism that sacrifices the individual on the altar of the tribe. In ancient mythology we often read about the virgins and young being sacrificed to protect the tribe’s survival and livelihoods from a great danger or enemy.
Furthermore, as people age, the belief that the future holds promise for their offspring dwindles. Part of the parent loves the child dearly and wants to protect them from an unpredictable world. They have also invested in their child and want to protect that investment. However, Khalil Gibran sums up the 'ownership' of this investment best :
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
It is a view such as this that may help parents to resist the desire to limit their children's independence.View all replies to this question
myreplyis.com asked in Humanities 14th Mar '19:Is it progress when video replaces reading to gain knowledge?.
Dana Khalili replied 28th Mar '19:
Not progress per se. Rather it is accommodating people who learn differently- by seeing, listening, and observing instead of reading for example.View all replies to this question
myreplyis.com asked in Natural Sciences 21st Mar '19:Is the world flat or round discussions are resurfacing. What is causing some people doubt the world is round?.
Dana Khalili replied 26th Mar '19:
What is causing some people to doubt that the world is round is the fact that the internet has opened the flood gates of education, making it accessible to all. In opening those flood gates however, the internet has allowed anyone the opportunity to become the educator and thus has failed to keep past educational foundations of critical analysis, scrutiny and integrity in check.
Nowadays, mass social media and citizen journalism have infiltrated the increasingly diluted realm of human knowledge at a speed and magnitude that is too overwhelming for traditional academia to confront. As a result, Flat Earth conspiracy theorists are finding quasi-legitimate footholds within the general population that previously would have been unheard of.View all replies to this question
Dana Khalili asked in Humanities 26th Dec '18:Are we propagating the status quo by being realistic and reactive, Or should we unplug ourselves from the matrix and create our own reality by being proactive to circumstances and events in our lives? View the question
myreplyis.com asked in Personal Wellness 4th Nov '18:What criteria should one rely on, when choosing which battles to address?.
Dana Khalili replied 8th Nov '18:
From my personal experience, there is no one answer or correct answer, but I will share what worked best for me. Resolve battles within you before you attempt anything else. Once you do, you won't feel the need to address them. The charge within us is what's creating the battles. Once you feel it you'll be able to release it. As a result, the battle will either disappear or will become too insignificant to address.View all replies to this question
You can also be patient and wait, usually battles resolve themselves by the time you attempt to do anything about them.
myreplyis.com asked in Humanities 22nd Apr '18:Please share an example of how religion enhanced artistic creativity?.
Dana Khalili replied 13th Sep '18:
We can safely say yes. It is enough to look at the Islamic architecture and art which focused on the exploration of geometric patterns especially in mosques. On the other hand the works of Michelangelo and Leonardo DaVinci in renaissance Europe were testimonies to the impact of the religious environment on art hence the depiction of prophets, angels and gods and demons. Hindus depicted their many gods with great statues, colourful paintings, elaborate shrines and music all of which constitute art and influenced the direction of the nation's culture.
Cathedrals, shrines and grand mosques were built in honor of a god the people worship and as an expression of the grandiose nature of those religions and the religious state.View all replies to this question
myreplyis.com asked in Humanities 29th Aug '18:How should we reconcile between those that believe and those that know the truth?.
Dana Khalili replied 30th Aug '18:
Ultimately truth is a belief. What one believes for themselves becomes their truth. This means that truth is not a readily-defined constant, but is instead relative to each person. Those who re-examine their truths - that is their own belief systems - to identify if truths are still relevant or merely a product of previous conditioning, are those that grow and evolve.
Therefore, if we accept that any truth is just a belief from someone's perspective, then we can reconcile truth and belief because we know that they are in fact one and the same.View all replies to this question
Richa asked in Personal Wellness 28th Aug '18:How to keep ourselves away from negative thoughts?
Dana Khalili replied 30th Aug '18:
Negative thoughts are simply a story that we make up; they are not real. Therefore feeding those thoughts with emotion only perpetuates those thoughts and is not useful. Instead, its better to recognise each negative thought as fiction and consider its true source- conditions we absorbed subconsciously growing up from society, our friends or family. Knowing that negative thoughts are based in something we did not create, nor had control over allows us to be more kind to ourselves.
Another thing to remember is that while bad, painful or even tragic circumstances happen to everyone in life, we always have the power to choose how we respond and experience that event. Someone close to you may no longer be in your life, but you can choose to dwell on the loss, or remember the good times you had and be grateful. Gratitude is a powerful tool to counteract negative thoughts.
Finally, meditating regularly even for five minutes a day to clear your mind gives your brain a break from all the negative thoughts and this respite allows it to rejuvenate and recover. With a rejuvenated brain you will be better able to counter negative thoughts in the future as they arise.View all replies to this question
myreplyis.com asked in Humanities 15th Mar '18:How do you feel towards the theory of existentialism; how does it intrigue you?.
Dana Khalili replied 5th Apr '18:
Existentialism is simply an essential part of humanity's survival strategy as a species. It counter-balances the original competition for resources, land, and increasingly complex innovation and technology. Existentialists act as free agents to advance their own interests but by doing so may also advance the species interests. It is the intersection of these interests that is intriguing.View all replies to this question
myreplyis.com asked in Performing Arts 18th Jan '18:How do you feel about the notion, that the best writers write from the point of view of the audience?.
Dana Khalili replied 4th Apr '18:
Not always. The best writers are the ones who open the eyes of their audiences to ideas and concepts they never knew existed. They show their audience a new world of new perspectives on their world and give it authenticity by driving emotional connection to the writing. In this way actually the best writers write from their point of view and do so well enough that the audience adopts that view as their own.View all replies to this question